So you’ve decided to make 2014 the year that you crush it in the dating game. You’ve mapped out the best bars, coffee shops, gyms, and grocery stores for picking up women in your city. You may have even joined a few online dating sites or singles groups. Whatever way you’ve chosen to meet your dating needs, you’re going to need a tight game plan. Here are six ways to step up your dating game this year.
Women love men who are self-assured and know what they want. To most women, there’s nothing sexier than a man who exudes confidence. However, there’s a difference between being confident and having an inflated sense of self. Remember this when you’ve got her in your cross hairs.
When you approach a woman, make sure you give her your full attention. Ask her about herself and pay close attention to her answers. Do not sneak a quick look at your watch, phone, or girl at the other end of the bar while she’s speaking—even if she’s boring you to death—as there may be other ladies you’re interested in watching. Be polite and excuse yourself when there’s a break in conversation if things seem to be going nowhere.
Because women love to talk, men who have mastered the art of conversation are in high demand. While you should stay in your comfort zone when it comes to conversation, remember to pose questions and develop talking points based on topics she may find interesting. Start by asking her about herself, and let her take it from there. If you have nothing intriguing to offer, continue to ask her questions in order to keep the conversation flowing.
For instance, she may have just finished reading Fifty Shades of Grey and can’t stop talking about it. Ask what her thoughts are on the impending film or throw in a (tasteful) joke about bondage. Regardless of the subject matter, make sure the conversation continues to move.
Everyone enjoys being complimented. Even though you may have been told you shouldn’t approach a woman with a compliment, telling a woman she’s got pretty eyes or that you like her hair still goes a long way. Of course you may be undressing her with your eyes, however, don’t reveal your lecherous thoughts.The average woman isn’t as sexual as the average man, as the women’s sex statistics gathered by Adam & Eve will show you. Instead, focus your conversation on things that would impress her like your charity work or a cooking class you recently took. Although it’s important to be yourself and be sincere, a little gentlemanly etiquette is always appreciated. Remember to read her body language—if she doesn’t seem to be feeling you, then back off and move on to the next one. After all, a gentleman knows when to call it quits.
As mentioned above, there’s nothing wrong with a nice compliment. However, there is something wrong with touching a woman without her permission when you first meet her. Although it may be tempting as hell to stroke her arm or brush a stray hair from her face, do not do it. Instead, move in closer to her as she speaks and engage her with your eyes. If you play your cards right, you may end up getting up close and personal with her.
Nothing will drive a woman away faster than a man who is too aggressive and forceful. Yes, you should make it known that you’re feeling her, but don’t over do it. Instead, flirt with her and engage her in conversation so that she knows you’re into her. You don’t have to be all over a girl for her to know you’re interested.
And finally, know when to properly depart. If you find yourself rambling or with nothing more to say, wrap things up and move along. If she’s interested, she’ll push you to stay or pursue you. Even if things are going well, don’t linger for too long—you’ll want something to talk about the next time you see her.